Growing up is a process of gradually finding himself, but losing his friend gradually.
We don't know when to start, we are getting busy, busy working and busy in love. Those who had long conversations with friends and talked for hours on a phone call were gone for a few hours. Finally, from the busy relief out of the self, but found no one around can talk.
By this time, we found out that friends are not the kind of people who have been standing in the place and waiting for me.
The following is a story of how a person finds a friend and loses a friend gradually. Sometimes, he is feeling the love that person is a friend, sometimes, he was merely gregarious, became a classmate to spoof off their pants for the pleasure of bad children; as for the loss of these friends, sometimes because of distance, situation, sometimes because of values.
Sometimes you choose to leave a friend, sometimes he chooses to leave you. In a time of change of friendship, a person change into another look.
You may be the hero of the story, or one of the people who left him. He is me and you. The following 11 can be sealed in the memory of a canned friend, can you recall a few?
The first friend
Pure natural pollution-free, early taste of childhood
My first friend was a toy truck.
It accompany me across the mud, shovel the door of the wild flowers, it is my childhood fantasy world of tanks, with it, I a person is a cavalry.
My parents often blame me. Because I like to lie in the earth and get all the clothes dirty.
On my 4 birthday, I got a bigger, brighter, brighter electric truck.
Then I never touched the old truck.
Divide me half a rubber table
Every Li Lei has a Han Meimei
8 years old, she became my deskmate.
The first 38 line of our class was born on the two of our desks.
For the first class, I didn't have a rubber. When is flawless, a piece of cut off half of the rubber suddenly appeared in sight, and left no knife edge neat traces.
At that moment, I took her as my friend.
At the end of grade three, I moved to another city because of my parents' work.
Every night we started talking on the phone, and she talked to me about the new head teacher, and I told her about my disagreeable new table. Slowly, more and more unfamiliar names are in our conversation, and we are all adapted to life without each other.
I lost my friend like that.
Encourage my neighbor, brother
Catch a grasshopper, build a firewood and roast a sweet potato
He's taking you to take you with you
12 years old, I know my neighbor.
He was two years older than me. Every morning he went down to my house to press the doorbell, and asked me to go to school together.
For a long time, PE exam I jump a horse, in any case is to jump in the past, only every night in front of the pier exercises.
He saw, bent over arching his back, let me try. The moment I was ready to jump, I was afraid to shrink.
He insisted that I should try again, almost all speak words of encouragement.
Although the exam, I still sat on the pommel horse, but I have found him a friend.
Many years later, I graduated from college, and he has left his business for three years. When he met again, he was full of rebate, positive energy, and leader.
He still insisted on giving me a try, because "the opportunity is for the prepared people".
I shook my head with a smile. I know that when everyone is different, you should wave farewell rather than pull the other side on the road.
Later, I never saw him again. Some people say he made a lot of money, then he took a lawsuit and went to jail.
I lost my friend like that.
The elder and the younger brother
Integrate into the mainstream circle and become the needed person
I was 15 years old, and I had a strong desire to integrate into that "circle".
They smoke together, cheat together, play together, often cut their girls' hair and take off their boys' pants.
They walk on the campus and feel the wind, very much like the old boys in the movies.
It looks cool.
I also learned to smoke and help them cheat. When I stood up and shouted "good teacher", I walked away from a shy, short boy's stool.
He with a bang, sat down on the ground. I banged the table laughing with them.
Although the boy did not talk to me later, I finally became a friend with the "cool" children.
Junior high school finally graduated, the "senior" in the circle did not continue to read high school, but go out to work. One summer time, we were completely scattered.
After high school, I became no longer so eager to be integrated into the group. For the first time, I thought about a question: what kind of person should I be, where I should draw my bottom line.
A friend cut off by the college entrance examination
The difference between the two worlds
I'm 18 years old, and I'm going to prepare for the college entrance examination.
He is my upper shop, we help each other in the self-study room and accompany each other to practice oral English.
We are classmates and comrades who fight side by side.
He went on to a key university in Beijing. I failed in the college entrance examination.
When my parents were worried about the risk I had to read, he insisted on encouraging me to do it again.
He was still in that way and supported me without asking for reasons.
When he became a college student, the key words of life became "community", "professional" and "social", and I was re reading. We all become very busy and don't get in touch with each other.
Youth is full of accidents, but the possibility is also being denied, and I believe there is a better future ahead.
On the day I got my ideal university notice, I called him.
Suddenly we don't know what to talk to.
When our conversation turned into a customer service question, I realized that we were no longer the best friends of each other.
Fellow traveller
Have you ever tasted the taste of a dream?
At the age of 20, I joined the school's photography club.
He was a fanatic in the community and saved money to wash the film. He said that the future will certainly allow people all over the world to see his work.
I am one of the few people who believe that he will realize this dream.
After graduation, I stayed in the big city. In the end, he didn't go back to his parents' arrangement and returned to his hometown, and he had a steady job in the state-owned enterprise.
The classmate will meet again, he is still at the beginning, the speech is more a cautious and a sense of discretion.
He talked about his colleagues who stumbled to him, his wife who was always unskilled, the son of thirty thousand tuition fees, and it seemed that everything was coming to him.
I consoled him and talked about the photo exhibition I saw recently and was interrupted by him.
"Are you playing with this?" You Laotaibuxiao, for your parents to consider, find a stable job..."
At that moment, I knew I had lost this friend.
The turn of interest
80 days 1 dollars, and he is also on the road
21 years old, I have an appointment with him to the poor.
We've never been so happy, we do the strategy, we buy sleeping bags, and the night before we go out, we repeat the places that have been marked on the map all night.
During the journey, he fell in the snow. I didn't help him up, but took a picture of him, and then he laughed.
We are young, we are eager to see more, and we swear that we will not let all the realistic factors hold back our ambitions.
After many years, we have been able to afford the high expenses, can live a better hotel, we can buy something an easy job to do what you wanted. We began to plan our trip again.
He turned into a purchase, ran 5 shopping spots a day, spent the day in line, and went back to sleep early in the night.
When I click "don't look at the person's circle of friends" button, I know I lost this friend.
The colleague who helped me cover
Roast a string together, diss together, and make money together
26 years old, I entered the workplace, he was a "fire extinguisher" to help me.
On that day, I accidentally wrote a key figure on the PPT, who was in the company's meeting.
He helped me cover with "the system didn't update in time".
We work overtime together, at work in the string line, as far as possible to give each other convenience.
In the bottom of my heart, I think of him as my friend.
A year later, a conflict of interests at work made him turn over in the office, and later, he began to unite with other colleagues to squeeze me.
I dared not think about the way I had walked together.
A friend who can't test money
You ask me how deep the friendship is and borrowing money to represent my heart
One day at the age of 28, a lot of people called me and told me that my QQ was stolen.
I found that someone has embezzled my account and borrowed money everywhere, on the grounds of a charge - the obvious deception.
But she, without demur, immediately turned 100 yuan to cheat.
I called to ask her, and she said, I'm only worried about what you need.
Our friendship exists in the form of no reason or absolute trust.
She and all her friends are proud to talk about me, "that in the city, promising small".
Until one day, she asked me to borrow money.
She was ready to do a new business, a big scale, and she said it was the mouth of the wind and was delayed for a second.
She has little money.
I was so embarrassed that I didn't know how to raise her ideal amount, and I felt it was not true.
I advised her, thinking more clearly to try again, she was blaming me, that I'm not generous, willing to help her, she said that I am very disappointed.
The meeting was at the classmate's meeting, and she passed me. I lost this friend like that.
A long, non - connected friend
Do not care about the long time, only care about once owned
I was 30 years old, and I went to another city on business. I knew she was in that city.
After graduation, she returned to her hometown and chose to accompany her parents. We haven't been in touch for nearly five years. When we were at school, there was a late night. She cried and called me, telling my mother the news of serious illness. I was a few people who knew the news.
On the plane, I give her a message to tell her I travel news, imagine our after being apart a long time.
When I got off the plane, I received her reply.
"Have fun! "
I mistook the friendship against the wear and tear of the time, and I was wrong.
I lost my friend like that.
Partners or friends?
You can't have
38 years old, people go to middle age. Some things don't do it again. This may be the case in this life.
I finally decided to resign and start my business.
The partner is my former colleague. When I smoked downstairs one day, we talked deeply about each other's thoughts. I never discovered that we had so much in common.
I haven't said so many "right", "yes", "yes" for a long time, and I think he is too.
We are both partners and friends.
When we start to start a business, we soon find that we do not agree with each other's style, values, and the future of the company.
For example, he thinks the top priority is to expand the market, and I think the user experience should be done first. No one of us can convince anyone.
I finally left the company.
I left my friend, too.
As I grow older, I find that those friends who have always been with me are not the same as they were.
The time for me to be alone is longer than ever before.
When we began to choose friends, we started a long self - identification. We have to think about what we are. We make friends not just to integrate into a group, to solve loneliness, but also to recognize ourselves. It's only when we recognize ourselves that friends will come to us at the right time. And as the saying goes, "you are the average of your friends."
So I finally realized that when the pace between friends is no longer the same, there is no need to force them to stay, because better future is after every diversion, and friends who want to stay, please do business regularly, because friends will never wait for me in situ.
Fortunately, I met a new friend, a friend and it first in my life so much, that I almost believe in yourself back to childhood.
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